so i read that post - the one Mrs Hall wrote to explain to teenaged girls in her community why she had unfriended them from her boys' facebook (basically, that her boys were helplessly in thrall to their hormones and couldn't be trusted alone with cute girls).
i'm not posting a link because i don't want to give the satisfaction - but you've probably already read it anyway but you have got to read this rebuttal by Iron Daisy: http://theirondaisywrites.wordpress.com/2013/09/04/fyi-if-youre-a-teenage-boy/ -- i just about died from laughing!
i wasn't sure at first - on the surface, Mrs Hall seemed to make a lot of sense. it seemed nothing more than motherly concern... and then i thought "wait a minute, what kind of family checks out teenaged girls' braless selfies around the dinner table?!" and it all started to unravel. i mean, even when i had to go hardline on one of my kids, it was between her and me; i didn't go dragging out everything all over the dinner table and ask for committee approval and the only ones i absolutely forbade her from communicating with again had no business talking to her in the first place! (not kidding). when she finally got herself sorted, that was it - end of subject, here's your internet back, don't ever make it necessary for me to do that again.
i was upstairs making chocolate muffins (and experimenting with replacing the oil with puréed mandarin sections - didn't work but they did well as part of the liquid) and i thought about girls who commit suicide because of embarrassing photos posted online and i thought about ppl who lost jobs or job opportunities or clients or whatever bec of stuff posted years before and i thought holy fuck - even rape has a statute of limitations!
in california, aggravated (type 3) rape carries a 3-yr statute of limitations: if no charges are laid within 3yrs, the rapist walks free. if he posts a picture of the victim, there's a chance she'll be dead within three years and if she's not, she could be 30 years older and here comes her grandchild asking "is this you, gramma!!!? what's he DOING to you!???".
and i thought about girls dressing skanky. i've always thought that there is an element of responsibility when a girl dresses in a sexually provocative manner. i'm not saying that "men are pigs" - i'm saying that to go into a club where ppl are drinking, doing drugs, and basically ensuring they are not in full possession of their normal good judgment is rather tantamount to walking into a burning building carrying a gas can. i figured it was that element of provocation - kind of like how someone gets the crap kicked out of them but then the court finds out he'd been taunting the guy for the past three weeks - that resulted in reduced sentences.
but then i had an epiphany! a blinding burst of enlightenment!
ppl who rape prostitutes and sexually promiscuous women shouldn't get reduced sentences - they should be punished even more harshly!
think about it. who gets the worse sentence: the guy who robs a bank or the guy who robs a lady on her way home from shopping? the one who steals smokes from a convenience store or the one who steals smokes from someone's house while visiting? drugs stolen from a pharmacy or from some little old pensioner while doing the house cleaning?
in all three cases, the business crime nets the higher sentence. why?
because the goods were there for the asking - all you have to do is meet the contract! if you want money from the bank, just meet their lending criteria. if you want drugs from a pharmacy, get a prescription. if you want cigarettes from the store, hand over the money.
prostitutes and sexually promiscuous girls ARE willing to have sex with you - you just need to meet the requirements (hint: regular use of soap and water is a good start).
so not only did the aggressor commit violence against their person, but it was *gratuitous* violence. all that was needed was to buy the girl a drink or hand over a 20 or a 50, and there you go - sex on tap.
instead, no - you had to go beating her up.
why? because that's what Mrs Hall told you to do! she's written you a Mrs Hall pass! remember: you're just a man so you can't help yourself from acting on your impure thoughts!
i was so amazed by this realization, i had to go eat some muffin batter.
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Wednesday, August 14, 2013
Afraid of dogs? Get past it!
My youngest daughter was born afraid of animals. Didn't matter what kind, large or small. Couldn't even have stuffies in her room without her screaming herself purple. I'm not talking a year old, here - I'm talking a month old and she totally lost her shit when I tried to use a stuffed pink bunny to prevent her from rolling off the couch while changing her diaper.
That was totally incomprehensible to me - I love animals. I think they're great, they're awesome, and a house is not a home without at least one furred, finned, or feathered denizen. The only thing I could think of was that she picked it up from her father, who really is afraid of dogs. He has reason to be - the country he grew up in is not known for its progressive attitude toward animals and he has the scars on the back of his thigh just below his buttock to prove it.
After we separated, I moved to the country with predictable results - absolute hysteria every time she saw a dog, cat, horse, cow, sheep, whatever. It was intolerable.
So I took the only reasonable course of action: I got myself a cat. Then two more were dumped on my doorstep and before I knew it, I was knee-deep in felines. Then I got a dog - "she" was supposed to be a medium-sized dog (border collie) but "she" came with deluxe mixed nuts: with his St John's Markings, he's clearly some kind of lab cross but he is definitely border collie too. But he's big - oh, not to me. To me, 65lbs and 22" high at the shoulder is just "dog" sized. But to city dwellers with their passionate love affair with the pocket pooches, he's humongous.
Hubbie was out with friends and he called - "put the dog away, we're bringing in the shopping". My dog is 100% not aggressive - I'm not just blowing smoke: he's been *well* tested. For him to actually attack, it means somebody's life is in danger. Even the times he's been involved in dog-on-dog conflicts (which does happen in any normal dog's life), there was never any blood - just a lot of slobbered-up fur. But he's hyper and he always goes bonkers when someone comes to the house - he's just SO DAMNED HAPPY TO SEE YOU!!!! HI!!!! HI!!!! RUB MY BELLY!!!! WHAT'S ON YOUR HEAD!!!!? HEY YOU SMELL GREAT!!!!! IS THAT SUMMER'S EVE!!??? - so yeah, if we have to go in and out and in and out bringing in bags and boxes, it's just easier to park the dog.
He came in with his friends and the shopping was stowed in the kitchen so all right, I go to let the dog out.
"Oh, I don't know," he says, "Danny [the kid, about 10yrs old] doesn't really like dogs."
Well, I'm not going to keep my dog locked up just because someone doesn't like dogs - ignore the dog, if that's your issue, I'm not forcing you to play with him.
I had just finished renovating the room I'd put the dog in and the mother came to see. I opened the door, dog shot out like a rocket, dancing and scrabbling on the slick floor, and I hear "Oh, no - she let the dog out!!" from the father and next thing I know, this kid is going MENTAL! Screaming, crying, slapping out at the dog (who had only been sniffing his toes), and generally acting like a fool.
Okay, harsh - but still!
My dog, now frightened and confused over what he'd done wrong, kept trying to belly up to the kid who kept striking out at him until his father picked him up and shoved my dog away with his foot. My dog's trying to come back to me, I'm trying to get out to him, but the mother is standing in the doorway with this world-weary expression on her face saying "No, no, it's okay, it's okay, he'll be fine" and, all in all, it's just one giant clusterfuck.
Here's the thing: YOU CANNOT ALLOW YOUR CHILD TO ACT LIKE THAT and no, I'm not going to keep my dog locked up because your child has not been taught how to behave around dogs!
Reality: the world has dogs in it. The world has a LOT of things in it that you, your child, or whoever, is going to find frightening or scary or gross or disgusting or whatever.
Reality: the world does not bend to accommodate you or your child. Maybe the school made everybody keep peanuts at home because of your kid's allergy but good luck phoning your child's boss and telling him he has to ban peanuts at work!
Reality: being afraid of dogs, just like being allergic to peanuts, can get you hurt or killed!
Danny was lucky - my dog lives to please and he's a really great dog. Far too many dogs out there are not. They are not well socialized with children, they are not taught bite inhibition, and they are just plain not taught good manners. If your child goes freaking out, panicking and squeaking and flapping and bolting off, then your child has just turned himself into prey - get a dog with a high prey drive and that dog will chase your child and take him down. No, there's not a whole lot anybody can do about it because prey drive is not something humans have. It's not "fear", it's not "aggression", it's simply the dog (or cat) turning into a pure hunting machine. It's the dog *being* a dog.
How to behave around animals is, I firmly believe, something that should be taught in schools by experts. It's not "automatically" or "instinctively" learned and it's not an innate skill. Dogs have an entire vocabularly that, unfortunately, is very similar to humans' in appearance but not in meaning.
For example:
If your child is afraid of dogs, then as a responsible parent, you MUST get that child educated. I'm not saying your child must become St Francis of Assissi - I don't care if your kid loves or hates animals. But your child must learn to respect animals, to give them their space, and not become a victim. If your child is attacked by a dog, it's the dog that will get killed for it - but I can almost guarantee that it was your child's fault.
Correction: I can almost guarantee that it was YOUR fault for not providing your child with the tools she needs to stay safe.
We're not going to lock away all our dogs to accommodate your child and your child's life will be a miserably uncomfortable one if he spends it trying to avoid all dogs. Teaching your child proper behaviour and self-control around dogs is the right thing to do.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Pro-Life, eh? Exactly *whose* life?
Today, got into it with pro-lifers as a result of a really smarmy, emotionally manipulative pro-life post on facebook. Summary: woman with a 2yr old discovers she's pregnant again, goes to the doctor for an abortion bec she can't handle two babies at once, dr suggests she instead kill the baby she already has so she can have a nice rest before the next one arrives [because naturally pregnancy is such a restful, relaxing time of life!]. of course the woman is horrified and the doctor pats himself on the back and no doubt faps to his own saintly image in the bathroom mirror after she leaves).
My view is that if you want to be pro-life for yourself, knock yourself out, more power to you, good on you, kudos, and all the rest of that congratulatory crap.
But KEEP it to yourself.
You have no right to guilt, manipulate, blackmail, or otherwise frighten women and girls into keeping babies they don't want.
And what if your little emotional blackmail works really well and the woman can't bear to give the baby up for adoption and keeps it - are you doing to be there when it's 2am and she is so stressed out that she'd like nothing better than to slam it through the drywall and it's only because she's taken herself out to the backyard to chainsmoke half a pack until the infant has cried itself to sleep from exhaustion that she hasn't done so? Are you going to top up her income so she can afford the basic necessities that aren't covered on social assistance or because she gave in to the monkey on her back? Are you going to babysit the child so she can keep up her university studies or will you make the student loan payments she can't meet because she had to drop out because of the baby?
"Adoption is an option" - unless you have a legally binding offer in hand, you can't say that. How can you possibly make a promise on behalf of some unknown random person that they will adopt the baby? What if the child is born with the consequences of drug or alchohol abuse? Have you seen the statistics detailing the number of disabled and handicapped kids languishing in care waiting for someone to get sick and tired of waiting for the perfect blonde, blue-eyed baby to show up?
For that matter, why should ppl who can't have kids be obligated to take a disabled child because it's the only one going?
"Oh, she smiles when she sees the sun on her face" - the child was in her early teens, blind, deaf, and with a mental age of approximately 9 months. She had frequent seizures and the feeding port in her stomach often got infected. Every penny the father got from his very well-paid job was sunk into keeping her alive while the house rotted down around his, his wife's, and their other two children's ears. The other two kids were gifted - son, a brilliant athlete; daughter, gifted academically and musically, and was a very good artist.
So the parents are sinking everything into keeping the disabled child smiling in her wheelchair while the other two kids have no hope at all of a future because their education funds had to be cashed in. When the parents die, they will have to assume care of their sister.
Why is the disabled child's right to smile in a wheelchair when she feels the sun on her face more important than the other two kids' right to develop to their full potential?
How is it benefiting society for that child to just sit in the chair while her two siblings grow up to flip burgers and sell used cars, get married, have kids, get divorced because of the stress of looking after the handicapped girl?
I find it curious that the parents didn't believe in abortion - they knew what was going to happen, the problem was detected during pregnancy by amniocentesis - but they sure had no problem throwing two healthy kids who would've benefited society and maybe even humanity under the bus!
There should be a law that anybody who counsels someone out of getting an abortion should be held liable for what happens afterward - for good or ill.
The states have this sick law requiring pregnant women to listen to the baby's heart and watch it on an ultrasound before an abortion will be approved (and naturally, any woman who does that and goes ahead with it will be judges as basically being a psychopath who is probably unfit to have children anyway). I think it should cut both ways: anybody who counsels a woman out of getting an abortion should be required to visit her every month and see how things are going. Maybe once they see the consequences of their action, they won't be so quick to flap their yaps.
Today, got into it with pro-lifers as a result of a really smarmy, emotionally manipulative pro-life post on facebook. Summary: woman with a 2yr old discovers she's pregnant again, goes to the doctor for an abortion bec she can't handle two babies at once, dr suggests she instead kill the baby she already has so she can have a nice rest before the next one arrives [because naturally pregnancy is such a restful, relaxing time of life!]. of course the woman is horrified and the doctor pats himself on the back and no doubt faps to his own saintly image in the bathroom mirror after she leaves).
My view is that if you want to be pro-life for yourself, knock yourself out, more power to you, good on you, kudos, and all the rest of that congratulatory crap.
But KEEP it to yourself.
You have no right to guilt, manipulate, blackmail, or otherwise frighten women and girls into keeping babies they don't want.
And what if your little emotional blackmail works really well and the woman can't bear to give the baby up for adoption and keeps it - are you doing to be there when it's 2am and she is so stressed out that she'd like nothing better than to slam it through the drywall and it's only because she's taken herself out to the backyard to chainsmoke half a pack until the infant has cried itself to sleep from exhaustion that she hasn't done so? Are you going to top up her income so she can afford the basic necessities that aren't covered on social assistance or because she gave in to the monkey on her back? Are you going to babysit the child so she can keep up her university studies or will you make the student loan payments she can't meet because she had to drop out because of the baby?
"Adoption is an option" - unless you have a legally binding offer in hand, you can't say that. How can you possibly make a promise on behalf of some unknown random person that they will adopt the baby? What if the child is born with the consequences of drug or alchohol abuse? Have you seen the statistics detailing the number of disabled and handicapped kids languishing in care waiting for someone to get sick and tired of waiting for the perfect blonde, blue-eyed baby to show up?
For that matter, why should ppl who can't have kids be obligated to take a disabled child because it's the only one going?
"Oh, she smiles when she sees the sun on her face" - the child was in her early teens, blind, deaf, and with a mental age of approximately 9 months. She had frequent seizures and the feeding port in her stomach often got infected. Every penny the father got from his very well-paid job was sunk into keeping her alive while the house rotted down around his, his wife's, and their other two children's ears. The other two kids were gifted - son, a brilliant athlete; daughter, gifted academically and musically, and was a very good artist.
So the parents are sinking everything into keeping the disabled child smiling in her wheelchair while the other two kids have no hope at all of a future because their education funds had to be cashed in. When the parents die, they will have to assume care of their sister.
Why is the disabled child's right to smile in a wheelchair when she feels the sun on her face more important than the other two kids' right to develop to their full potential?
How is it benefiting society for that child to just sit in the chair while her two siblings grow up to flip burgers and sell used cars, get married, have kids, get divorced because of the stress of looking after the handicapped girl?
I find it curious that the parents didn't believe in abortion - they knew what was going to happen, the problem was detected during pregnancy by amniocentesis - but they sure had no problem throwing two healthy kids who would've benefited society and maybe even humanity under the bus!
There should be a law that anybody who counsels someone out of getting an abortion should be held liable for what happens afterward - for good or ill.
The states have this sick law requiring pregnant women to listen to the baby's heart and watch it on an ultrasound before an abortion will be approved (and naturally, any woman who does that and goes ahead with it will be judges as basically being a psychopath who is probably unfit to have children anyway). I think it should cut both ways: anybody who counsels a woman out of getting an abortion should be required to visit her every month and see how things are going. Maybe once they see the consequences of their action, they won't be so quick to flap their yaps.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
pro-ana morons (cross-post from my other blog)
i HATE HATE HATE so-called "pro-anorexics" - those who actively encourage and enable anorexia.
i think they should be charged under the criminal code with counselling to commit suicide since it's been soundly proven that, left untreated, anorexia leads to death.
anorexia is nothing more or less than suicide by starvation and, to my mind, it's the most selfish, vengeful, and malicious way to choose. the anorexic - knowing full well she (statistically speaking) has a problem because her parents, her friends, her teachers, and her freaking doctor have TOLD her she has a problem, is basically sinking in a deep pool of shit. all her loved ones are on the shore calling to her and throwing her ropes to pull her out but does she grab them and help save herself!? hell no - she makes damned sure that rope lands in the shit before she throws it back to slap them across the face.
refusing to get treated for a condition such as anorexia or schizophrenia, that's a big FUCK YOU to everybody who knows and loves you.
and honestly, to all those moronic pro-anorexics out there: do you *honestly* think THIS is, by any stretch of the imagination, "sexy"?!?
anybody who finds that image "sexy" would be equally turned on by:
or
or even
i think they should be charged under the criminal code with counselling to commit suicide since it's been soundly proven that, left untreated, anorexia leads to death.
anorexia is nothing more or less than suicide by starvation and, to my mind, it's the most selfish, vengeful, and malicious way to choose. the anorexic - knowing full well she (statistically speaking) has a problem because her parents, her friends, her teachers, and her freaking doctor have TOLD her she has a problem, is basically sinking in a deep pool of shit. all her loved ones are on the shore calling to her and throwing her ropes to pull her out but does she grab them and help save herself!? hell no - she makes damned sure that rope lands in the shit before she throws it back to slap them across the face.
refusing to get treated for a condition such as anorexia or schizophrenia, that's a big FUCK YOU to everybody who knows and loves you.
and honestly, to all those moronic pro-anorexics out there: do you *honestly* think THIS is, by any stretch of the imagination, "sexy"?!?
anybody who finds that image "sexy" would be equally turned on by:
or
or even
Monday, October 11, 2010
environmental extortion!.... or is it?
i first learned about the situation when i caught the front page of the National Post (kind of a cross between the globe and mail and the toronto sun). it read something like "ecuador demands the world pay [some number of billions] to save the rainforest". basically, ecuador was "demanding" the world pay it to not drill for oil in one of the last remaining intact tracts of rainforest.
my first reaction - "the blackguards! that's blackmail! extortion!"
basically, same reaction as this decidedly VERY biased article: http://www.americanthinker.com/2010/10/un_environmental_extortion.html
and then i got to thinking: "i'm poor. i have barely enough money to scrape by from month to month. i discover i have gold in my back yard that would generate enough money not only to meet my needs but to leave me quite comfortable - BUT!
my much-wealthier neighbours (who've been telling me for years how i should decorate the house and landscape my front yard while somehow never managing to have the money on hand to help me keep up with the standards they demand) have decided i can't sell it to a mining company because it would ruin the look of the place and bring down property values and then some eco-tree-hugger bunch announces my back yard is one of the last remaining territories of some straggly little weed or a bedraggled little bird or maybe even some unappealing rodent-y little thing and they jump on the bandwagon to prevent me from tearing up my back yard with a horrible ugly ol' mine.
kinda puts a different slant on the whole thing, doesn't it?
quite frankly, i find it laudable that ecuador even opened the door to the option - were it pretty much any of the G8, they'd've had the drills sunk and the geysers gushing long before the rest of us had time to open our eyes over our morning coffee!
so, bottom line, there it is: if the world wants the rainforest preserved, the world better be prepared to put its money where its mouth is.
my first reaction - "the blackguards! that's blackmail! extortion!"
basically, same reaction as this decidedly VERY biased article: http://www.americanthinker.com/2010/10/un_environmental_extortion.html
Under the noble rubric of protecting the environment, native habitat, and local, indigenous peoples, as well as "preventing the discharge into the atmosphere of more than 400 million metric tons of carbon which would result from the burning of fossil fuels if oil were extracted," Ecuador has devised a plan through the U.N. Development Group (UNDP) to receive remuneration for its good deeds. There are few subtler ways to blatantly extort the world than under the guise of the U.N. Contributions are rarely directly funded, therefore the 2009 budget -- 22% of which is funded by U.S. taxpayers -- rarely gets dissected, scrutinized, and exhibited. Who wants to read about their constant stupidity and inefficiency? But this new fiasco is worth learning. The Yasuni-ITT Initiative, co-opted by the UNDP, requires 50% of the foregone value of the reserves to be paid by a collaboration of industrialized countries directly to Ecuador...or they will move forward with drilling. At a rough estimate of $76 a barrel, that's almost $32 billion due Ecuador for the pleasure of not becoming an oil producer.
and then i got to thinking: "i'm poor. i have barely enough money to scrape by from month to month. i discover i have gold in my back yard that would generate enough money not only to meet my needs but to leave me quite comfortable - BUT!
my much-wealthier neighbours (who've been telling me for years how i should decorate the house and landscape my front yard while somehow never managing to have the money on hand to help me keep up with the standards they demand) have decided i can't sell it to a mining company because it would ruin the look of the place and bring down property values and then some eco-tree-hugger bunch announces my back yard is one of the last remaining territories of some straggly little weed or a bedraggled little bird or maybe even some unappealing rodent-y little thing and they jump on the bandwagon to prevent me from tearing up my back yard with a horrible ugly ol' mine.
kinda puts a different slant on the whole thing, doesn't it?
quite frankly, i find it laudable that ecuador even opened the door to the option - were it pretty much any of the G8, they'd've had the drills sunk and the geysers gushing long before the rest of us had time to open our eyes over our morning coffee!
so, bottom line, there it is: if the world wants the rainforest preserved, the world better be prepared to put its money where its mouth is.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
what do you mean, "not my problem"!?
so, okay - this morning, mea maxima culpa (latin for "my big bad"). never mind all the lectures, i *know* it wasn't the greatest option but it was the only one i had.
factor #1: i have a 3yr old. she's *very* strong, weighs 50lbs - if she doesn't want to do something, trust me: there's no way of forcing her without actually hurting her because of the force required to overcome the amount of inertia she can create which can probably generate its own gravitational pull. add to that a temper that registers on the fujita scale and you can see why dealing with her when she's stressed, frightened, or just woken up is SO not my idea of a party.
factor #2: i have a border collie mix, weighs 70lbs, and is hyper, hyper, HYPER. he *has* to be walked twice a day or he is out of control and demo's the house when left alone.
factor #3: mondays, tuesdays, and thursdays, i have a very tight morning schedule. we have to be out in the driveway at 9am or we miss our ride into town. hitch-hiking is pretty crappy in the mornings because the bugs are *fierce*. wearing mosquito gear is fine but even though it's mesh, you still end up hot and sticky because now you can't scratch and wipe it away.
last night, she got up around midnight - bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, ready to par-TAY. didn't get back to sleep until about 2am.
the usual schedule is:
0600 - wake up, get dressed
0630 to 0700 - walk the dog
0700 to 0830 - breakfast while going over Dog Whisperer and other PVR'd shows while she watches Caillou, Max and Ruby, etc.
0830 - 0900 - we watch Dora the Explorer together while i do her hair
0900 - outside waiting for our ride.
today, she didn't get up at 6. when i poked her softly to test for doneness, she shrieked "NOOO!!!!!" and whacked me across the side of the head before pulling the pillow over her head. i waited but when she started snoring, i figured i'd give her a little more time.
i spent the next little while going over the TV shows, brushing the dog, straightening the livingroom, drinking too much tea. i checked her again at 7, but she was dead to the world. by now, i was getting a bit nervous and the dog was definitely anxious - i let him out in the backyard to pee but when i called him right back in, he almost balked.
8am, she was still comatose. by now, the dog was literally going out of his mind. he would run from me to the door whining and pawing at it in between sessions of rolling on the floor at my feet.
when he rolled onto his back in front of me and peed all over himself, i realized we were out of time - i locked the front door, locked the gate separating the livingroom and bedroom from the rest of the house, loaded the dog's backpack up with six pounds, and headed up the road to the top of the hill and back - total walk time is only ten minutes but with his loaded backpack on, it drains him out pretty good. add a minute for him to do his number two (couple of them, actually) and that's it.
except on the way back, a pickup stopped and asked if i lived at the house across the bridge. i said yes and he said "your baby's in the road, you know".
WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????
i *ran* back to the house and sure enough, there's saari, naked except for panties and crocs on the wrong feet, smiling and beaming at two girls who were giving me the stink-eye.
then all three of them start lecturing me! i tried to explain but they wouldn't even let me talk, just kept yammering.
finally i said "tell you what: since you're so concerned, why don't you come here every morning and watch her so i can give the dog a proper workout?"
"oh, well, that's not our problem," he said while the two girls sneered.
i said "if it's not your problem, why are you standing here getting all holier than thou on me? give me a solution."
then i asked him if he was a single father and he said no. i said how nice that he has a wife at home to do all the hard work for him. then i said until you know what it's like trying to split yourself into three pieces trying to look after everything all by yourself, don't you dare judge me.
he said if it happened again, he'd report me, i said that's certainly your right and took saari and the dog into the house.
today, i buy a lock for the bedroom door because i can't figure out for the life of me how she got out. the gate was still locked, the front door was still locked (it's a latch up at the top of the door, not the lock on the handle) so unless she managed to dematerialise through the actual wall of the house, i have no idea. the last thing i need is to have her pull the same stunt while i'm in the tub or doing laundry or something!
factor #1: i have a 3yr old. she's *very* strong, weighs 50lbs - if she doesn't want to do something, trust me: there's no way of forcing her without actually hurting her because of the force required to overcome the amount of inertia she can create which can probably generate its own gravitational pull. add to that a temper that registers on the fujita scale and you can see why dealing with her when she's stressed, frightened, or just woken up is SO not my idea of a party.
factor #2: i have a border collie mix, weighs 70lbs, and is hyper, hyper, HYPER. he *has* to be walked twice a day or he is out of control and demo's the house when left alone.
factor #3: mondays, tuesdays, and thursdays, i have a very tight morning schedule. we have to be out in the driveway at 9am or we miss our ride into town. hitch-hiking is pretty crappy in the mornings because the bugs are *fierce*. wearing mosquito gear is fine but even though it's mesh, you still end up hot and sticky because now you can't scratch and wipe it away.
last night, she got up around midnight - bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, ready to par-TAY. didn't get back to sleep until about 2am.
the usual schedule is:
0600 - wake up, get dressed
0630 to 0700 - walk the dog
0700 to 0830 - breakfast while going over Dog Whisperer and other PVR'd shows while she watches Caillou, Max and Ruby, etc.
0830 - 0900 - we watch Dora the Explorer together while i do her hair
0900 - outside waiting for our ride.
today, she didn't get up at 6. when i poked her softly to test for doneness, she shrieked "NOOO!!!!!" and whacked me across the side of the head before pulling the pillow over her head. i waited but when she started snoring, i figured i'd give her a little more time.
i spent the next little while going over the TV shows, brushing the dog, straightening the livingroom, drinking too much tea. i checked her again at 7, but she was dead to the world. by now, i was getting a bit nervous and the dog was definitely anxious - i let him out in the backyard to pee but when i called him right back in, he almost balked.
8am, she was still comatose. by now, the dog was literally going out of his mind. he would run from me to the door whining and pawing at it in between sessions of rolling on the floor at my feet.
when he rolled onto his back in front of me and peed all over himself, i realized we were out of time - i locked the front door, locked the gate separating the livingroom and bedroom from the rest of the house, loaded the dog's backpack up with six pounds, and headed up the road to the top of the hill and back - total walk time is only ten minutes but with his loaded backpack on, it drains him out pretty good. add a minute for him to do his number two (couple of them, actually) and that's it.
except on the way back, a pickup stopped and asked if i lived at the house across the bridge. i said yes and he said "your baby's in the road, you know".
WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????
i *ran* back to the house and sure enough, there's saari, naked except for panties and crocs on the wrong feet, smiling and beaming at two girls who were giving me the stink-eye.
then all three of them start lecturing me! i tried to explain but they wouldn't even let me talk, just kept yammering.
finally i said "tell you what: since you're so concerned, why don't you come here every morning and watch her so i can give the dog a proper workout?"
"oh, well, that's not our problem," he said while the two girls sneered.
i said "if it's not your problem, why are you standing here getting all holier than thou on me? give me a solution."
then i asked him if he was a single father and he said no. i said how nice that he has a wife at home to do all the hard work for him. then i said until you know what it's like trying to split yourself into three pieces trying to look after everything all by yourself, don't you dare judge me.
he said if it happened again, he'd report me, i said that's certainly your right and took saari and the dog into the house.
today, i buy a lock for the bedroom door because i can't figure out for the life of me how she got out. the gate was still locked, the front door was still locked (it's a latch up at the top of the door, not the lock on the handle) so unless she managed to dematerialise through the actual wall of the house, i have no idea. the last thing i need is to have her pull the same stunt while i'm in the tub or doing laundry or something!
Monday, June 7, 2010
Friday, May 7, 2010
Hellgrammite - yeah, i can buy that totally!
that nasty, butt-ugly bug is called a Hellgrammite and is the larval form of the Dobsonfly, which are those whacking huge hang-gliders-with-fangs we see around here every so often. turns out pitching the sucker into the lake was probably the right thing to do - that's where they live, for the most part, except i think they're coming out on land to do their pupating or whatever it is.
well, glad to have that sorted out. in conclusion:
YYYYEAAAAAAR-UUUGH!!!!!
well, glad to have that sorted out. in conclusion:
YYYYEAAAAAAR-UUUGH!!!!!
Monday, May 3, 2010
WTF IS THIS!?????
you are *totally* not going to believe what the hunting pack (my dog and two housekittens) brought back last night - i'm SO glad saari was asleep because believe me, you'd've heard her shrieking in tajikistan!
anybody have any clue what THIS mutant exoskeletal being from hell is!??
i snatched it up into a jug and threw it out the door. this morning, i hope to hell it was the same one because there were blue jays in the front yard feasting on it, or another one of them!
ETA: did some checking up and it looks an awful lot like the dreaded "Molokau" found in Tonga and other tropical locations. otherwise, it's a member of the Chilopoda family and probably not only carnivorous, but venomous and dangerous to small children. must remember to tell saari to keep her footwear on outside.
sheesh. "bucolic country life", my ASS!
anybody have any clue what THIS mutant exoskeletal being from hell is!??
i snatched it up into a jug and threw it out the door. this morning, i hope to hell it was the same one because there were blue jays in the front yard feasting on it, or another one of them!
ETA: did some checking up and it looks an awful lot like the dreaded "Molokau" found in Tonga and other tropical locations. otherwise, it's a member of the Chilopoda family and probably not only carnivorous, but venomous and dangerous to small children. must remember to tell saari to keep her footwear on outside.
sheesh. "bucolic country life", my ASS!
Monday, April 26, 2010
starting a business in rural ontario
well, today i had a meeting with the director of economic development, tourism, and marketing for haliburton county (minden office). it's a very grandiose title for what turned out to be a very warm, welcoming, and encouraging man.
great coffee.
anyway, he laid on me a packet of info about six inches thick and i have probably one or two days to digest it before he gets me a meeting with the small business enterprise lady, who will be coming up from lindsay just to meet with me. i mean... yoiks!
THEN i have to meet with the small business enterprise program and then the haliburton country development corporation and then the ministry of agriculture, food, and rural affairs.
....
wow.
i feel very important.
actually, i feel rather like a fraud. all this fuss for a wee little business - i feel like i should be starting up a diamond mine or some kind of manufacturing plant for the DND.
although... if it works out, then it could very well turn into a half-decent business that would definitely benefit the local economy.....?
great coffee.
anyway, he laid on me a packet of info about six inches thick and i have probably one or two days to digest it before he gets me a meeting with the small business enterprise lady, who will be coming up from lindsay just to meet with me. i mean... yoiks!
THEN i have to meet with the small business enterprise program and then the haliburton country development corporation and then the ministry of agriculture, food, and rural affairs.
....
wow.
i feel very important.
actually, i feel rather like a fraud. all this fuss for a wee little business - i feel like i should be starting up a diamond mine or some kind of manufacturing plant for the DND.
although... if it works out, then it could very well turn into a half-decent business that would definitely benefit the local economy.....?
Monday, April 19, 2010
total backfire!
i have been teaching dandy to pick up around the house. basically, anything on the floor, i want to find in a basket when i get home so i can just sort it out and voila: housework done.
it's been going very well - very well, indeed.
too well!
i was hanging the laundry and out of the corner of my eye saw a bright yellow blob go bobbing down the river.
"tennis ball", i though automatically and kept hanging clothes.
another yellow blob.
"someone must be having trouble with their serve," i thought, snickering mentally.
another yellow blob.
"rubber ducky."
RUBBER DUCKY!!!? dandy has a rubber ducky! he has yellow tennis balls, too! there ARE no tennis courts upstream - it's all bush!
i raced to the top of the riverbank just in time to see dandy wing his pink rubber boot into the water and head back for my watering can!
the balls and the ducky were history but he did get his boot back and i was able to safeguard my watering can.
it's been going very well - very well, indeed.
too well!
i was hanging the laundry and out of the corner of my eye saw a bright yellow blob go bobbing down the river.
"tennis ball", i though automatically and kept hanging clothes.
another yellow blob.
"someone must be having trouble with their serve," i thought, snickering mentally.
another yellow blob.
"rubber ducky."
RUBBER DUCKY!!!? dandy has a rubber ducky! he has yellow tennis balls, too! there ARE no tennis courts upstream - it's all bush!
i raced to the top of the riverbank just in time to see dandy wing his pink rubber boot into the water and head back for my watering can!
the balls and the ducky were history but he did get his boot back and i was able to safeguard my watering can.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
EARLY SPAY/NEUTER SHOULD BE ILLEGAL
it's definitely immoral and unethical.
read the study found here: Long-Term Health Risks and Benefits Associated with Spay / Neuter in Dogs by Laura J. Sanborn, M S, of Rutgers University at the time of writing.
here's the summary:
i find it absolutely criminal and shameful that veterinarians regard people who want just a simple vasectomy or tubal ligation as freaks who probably have a nefarious agenda. why are they too stupid to do the math: i can always get his testicles removed later if he develops a condition to warrant but if he gets a condition that could've been avoided, it's not like i can ask for them to be put back in, now is it?
read the study found here: Long-Term Health Risks and Benefits Associated with Spay / Neuter in Dogs by Laura J. Sanborn, M S, of Rutgers University at the time of writing.
here's the summary:
SUMMARY
An objective reading of the veterinary medical literature reveals a complex situation with respect to the longterm health risks and benefits associated with spay/neuter in dogs. The evidence shows that spay/neuter correlates with both positive AND adverse health effects in dogs. It also suggests how much we really do
not yet understand about this subject.
On balance, it appears that no compelling case can be made for neutering most male dogs, especially immature male dogs, in order to prevent future health problems. The number of health problems associated with neutering may exceed the associated health benefits in most cases.
On the positive side, neutering male dogs
• eliminates the small risk (probably <1%) of dying from testicular cancer
• reduces the risk of non-cancerous prostate disorders
• reduces the risk of perianal fistulas
• may possibly reduce the risk of diabetes (data inconclusive)
On the negative side, neutering male dogs
• if done before 1 year of age, significantly increases the risk of osteosarcoma (bone cancer); this is a
common cancer in medium/large and larger breeds with a poor prognosis.
• increases the risk of cardiac hemangiosarcoma by a factor of 1.6
• triples the risk of hypothyroidism
• increases the risk of progressive geriatric cognitive impairment
• triples the risk of obesity, a common health problem in dogs with many associated health problems
• quadruples the small risk (<0.6%) of prostate cancer
• doubles the small risk (<1%) of urinary tract cancers
• increases the risk of orthopedic disorders
• increases the risk of adverse reactions to vaccinations
For female dogs, the situation is more complex. The number of health benefits associated with spaying may exceed the associated health problems in some (not all) cases. On balance, whether spaying improves the odds of overall good health or degrades them probably depends on the age of the female dog and the
relative risk of various diseases in the different breeds.
On the positive side, spaying female dogs
• if done before 2.5 years of age, greatly reduces the risk of mammary tumors, the most common
malignant tumors in female dogs
• nearly eliminates the risk of pyometra, which otherwise would affect about 23% of intact female
dogs; pyometra kills about 1% of intact female dogs
• reduces the risk of perianal fistulas
• removes the very small risk ( 0.5%) from uterine, cervical, and ovarian tumors
On the negative side, spaying female dogs
• if done before 1 year of age, significantly increases the risk of osteosarcoma (bone cancer); this is a
common cancer in larger breeds with a poor prognosis
• increases the risk of splenic hemangiosarcoma by a factor of 2.2 and cardiac hemangiosarcoma by
a factor of >5; this is a common cancer and major cause of death in some breeds
• triples the risk of hypothyroidism
• increases the risk of obesity by a factor of 1.6-2, a common health problem in dogs with many
associated health problems
• causes urinary “spay incontinence” in 4-20% of female dogs
• increases the risk of persistent or recurring urinary tract infections by a factor of 3-4
• increases the risk of recessed vulva, vaginal dermatitis, and vaginitis, especially for female dogs
spayed before puberty
• doubles the small risk (<1%) of urinary tract tumors
• increases the risk of orthopedic disorders
• increases the risk of adverse reactions to vaccinations
One thing is clear – much of the spay/neuter information that is available to the public is unbalanced and contains claims that are exaggerated or unsupported by evidence.
i find it absolutely criminal and shameful that veterinarians regard people who want just a simple vasectomy or tubal ligation as freaks who probably have a nefarious agenda. why are they too stupid to do the math: i can always get his testicles removed later if he develops a condition to warrant but if he gets a condition that could've been avoided, it's not like i can ask for them to be put back in, now is it?
next trainer... =)
so i took dandy to a local trainer - wonderful lady!
she evaluated him and said his only real problem is he's not getting enough exercise and i am not enforcing my leadership position enough. basically, i'm the landlady when i should be Goddess.
she's agreed to train him for agility but only after i've really worked on tightening control, improving his recall, and getting his energy levels down to a slow simmer on a consistent basis. keep doing what i'm doing, just do it more.
jobwise, she had reservations about my "garbage retriever" idea (training him to pick up roadside garbage and bring it to a bucket or container). she recommended i train him to pull a cart in the summer and a sled in the winter - it would allow all of us (me, him, my 3yr old daughter, and the cats) to all walk together. as it is, we can't because my daughter is SOOOOO SLOOOOOW and just as distractable as he is that it takes us 20 minutes to move fifteen feet. by then, i'm literally chewing the inside of my cheeks so as not to snap "ffs, MOVE IT!!!!!!!!!" and stifling her natural wonder at the manifest beauty of mother nature or some such crunchy hoo.
w00t!
she evaluated him and said his only real problem is he's not getting enough exercise and i am not enforcing my leadership position enough. basically, i'm the landlady when i should be Goddess.
she's agreed to train him for agility but only after i've really worked on tightening control, improving his recall, and getting his energy levels down to a slow simmer on a consistent basis. keep doing what i'm doing, just do it more.
jobwise, she had reservations about my "garbage retriever" idea (training him to pick up roadside garbage and bring it to a bucket or container). she recommended i train him to pull a cart in the summer and a sled in the winter - it would allow all of us (me, him, my 3yr old daughter, and the cats) to all walk together. as it is, we can't because my daughter is SOOOOO SLOOOOOW and just as distractable as he is that it takes us 20 minutes to move fifteen feet. by then, i'm literally chewing the inside of my cheeks so as not to snap "ffs, MOVE IT!!!!!!!!!" and stifling her natural wonder at the manifest beauty of mother nature or some such crunchy hoo.
w00t!
Thursday, March 25, 2010
doggie training today
so today was the first time EVER i went to a professional one-on-one doggie training session.
from the start, i received the distinct impression that i was taking up her time. dunno if she was nervous, tense, or irritable or maybe i just bring that out in people, but i felt that i was being rushed through things. i also didn't appreciate the few things i do that actually work being criticised because they weren't *her* way of doing things - ie, when he jumps, i bring him down and make him sit. she said that's correction, we don't want to correct - just ignore him, it's a normal form of dog communication. i said i'm not down with that, as he's left claw scrapes on ppl's faces (saari and her dad) when he jumps and it may be normal for dogs but it's just not acceptable.
she was also dismissive of cesar millan - "oh, he's got *some* good ideas but i have NO idea where he's coming from half the time". to my mind, unless she has the same status, she's got no call to criticise. she wouldn't even let me put dandy in the penned field to burn off excess energy before the training session because "that's for my agility training and i don't want the ground torn up". i still can't figure how one dog running around for ten or fifteen minutes could demo a field, but whatever. i don't know if it's significant, but i've noticed that ppl who are disparaging of cesar millan absolutely do not have his zen-like calm demeanor and she's no exception.
the experience was, overall, great - i really enjoyed properly learning how to use a "clicker" - even though it totally highlighted my deficits as the owner of a dog of dandy's quality. he got the hang of the clicker training WAY faster than i did and more than once gave me *the* most exasperated look, lol.
i'll go back again (at least once), but i told her it was a lot of information to process and if she wanted to halve it per session, that's fine with me - "i'm not interested in siphoning every last drop out". i would rather spend the hour learning two skills REALLY REALLY well in a casual, chatty, relaxed atmosphere instead of just touching on a half-dozen in a rushed, "hurry hard!!!" kind of way.
from the start, i received the distinct impression that i was taking up her time. dunno if she was nervous, tense, or irritable or maybe i just bring that out in people, but i felt that i was being rushed through things. i also didn't appreciate the few things i do that actually work being criticised because they weren't *her* way of doing things - ie, when he jumps, i bring him down and make him sit. she said that's correction, we don't want to correct - just ignore him, it's a normal form of dog communication. i said i'm not down with that, as he's left claw scrapes on ppl's faces (saari and her dad) when he jumps and it may be normal for dogs but it's just not acceptable.
she was also dismissive of cesar millan - "oh, he's got *some* good ideas but i have NO idea where he's coming from half the time". to my mind, unless she has the same status, she's got no call to criticise. she wouldn't even let me put dandy in the penned field to burn off excess energy before the training session because "that's for my agility training and i don't want the ground torn up". i still can't figure how one dog running around for ten or fifteen minutes could demo a field, but whatever. i don't know if it's significant, but i've noticed that ppl who are disparaging of cesar millan absolutely do not have his zen-like calm demeanor and she's no exception.
the experience was, overall, great - i really enjoyed properly learning how to use a "clicker" - even though it totally highlighted my deficits as the owner of a dog of dandy's quality. he got the hang of the clicker training WAY faster than i did and more than once gave me *the* most exasperated look, lol.
i'll go back again (at least once), but i told her it was a lot of information to process and if she wanted to halve it per session, that's fine with me - "i'm not interested in siphoning every last drop out". i would rather spend the hour learning two skills REALLY REALLY well in a casual, chatty, relaxed atmosphere instead of just touching on a half-dozen in a rushed, "hurry hard!!!" kind of way.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
flipping mutt.
yesterday, i took dandy to rotary park in minden. it's a lovely park with beaches, climbers for the kids, swings, a gazebo, outdoor picnic tables, LOTS of old-growth-sized trees, all on a hard-shore peninsula in the gull river.
the access road was roped off, probably because the dirt parking lot is boggy as hell and a car would wreck it or get stuck in the "gumbo" (boot-clinging type mud). i parked across the road at kawartha dairy and walked dandy to the park. at the parking lot, i took his leash off and he went NUTS - tearing around like mad! it was so cute!
then i saw the canada geese and the ducks - a good flock of them in the lagoon. i said "go get 'em, dandy!" and he charged right off the top of the embankment, leaped clear over the entire sloping rock wall, and landed on the sand with a good two feet to spare. he charged madly into the water and THEN
the water hit his belly.
he stopped dead in his tracks, looked down at the water, looked at the geese, then looked at me and clearly said "yeah..... no. unh-unh, girlfriend. get your own damned dinner!"
he came right out of the water but all the geese started honking at him as they swam briskly away on the opposite shore. he ran alongside them, they switched directions. he ran the other way to get ahead of them, they switched and started swimming back again. he kept doing this again and again and i'm thinking "what a moroon!" - and then i saw the geese:
all floating quietly in a huddle in the middle of the water, lol.
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the access road was roped off, probably because the dirt parking lot is boggy as hell and a car would wreck it or get stuck in the "gumbo" (boot-clinging type mud). i parked across the road at kawartha dairy and walked dandy to the park. at the parking lot, i took his leash off and he went NUTS - tearing around like mad! it was so cute!
then i saw the canada geese and the ducks - a good flock of them in the lagoon. i said "go get 'em, dandy!" and he charged right off the top of the embankment, leaped clear over the entire sloping rock wall, and landed on the sand with a good two feet to spare. he charged madly into the water and THEN
the water hit his belly.
he stopped dead in his tracks, looked down at the water, looked at the geese, then looked at me and clearly said "yeah..... no. unh-unh, girlfriend. get your own damned dinner!"
he came right out of the water but all the geese started honking at him as they swam briskly away on the opposite shore. he ran alongside them, they switched directions. he ran the other way to get ahead of them, they switched and started swimming back again. he kept doing this again and again and i'm thinking "what a moroon!" - and then i saw the geese:
all floating quietly in a huddle in the middle of the water, lol.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
new danger of breastfeeding while co-sleeping - be warned!
my daughter, just turned 3, and i co-sleep and she is still breastfeeding. the other night, she (as usual) decided to latch on so (as usual), she tried to pull up the bottom of my t-shirt. it was apparently stuck, so she pulled harder, then moved to grip another area and pull that side out from where it was evidently pinned underneath me.
the thing was: she's a "traveller" and had worked herself so her head was at my waist - it wasn't my t-shirt she was hauling on, but the bottom of my undies!
it is SO not nice to wake up to the world's worst "power wedgie"!
the thing was: she's a "traveller" and had worked herself so her head was at my waist - it wasn't my t-shirt she was hauling on, but the bottom of my undies!
it is SO not nice to wake up to the world's worst "power wedgie"!
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
it's Saari's birthday today!
she's 3 years old - although she's already started and insists she's five (largely because it's easier to hold up all fingers instead of only three!).
"look at my new jacket from aunti pam!". it is the perfect red for her - she looks fantastic in it - and it came with a matching pair of pants. auntie pam and uncle pappi (not to forget shivan, sanjiv, and priya!) also sent a ***gorgeous*** teddy bear customized with her name and a tinkerbell "treasure box" that she carried around all morning long and pitched a major fit because i said she couldn't bring it to day care!
the day care will have birthday cake and a little celebration for her at lunchtime but her official birthday party is saturday at the bowling alley.
"look at my new jacket from aunti pam!". it is the perfect red for her - she looks fantastic in it - and it came with a matching pair of pants. auntie pam and uncle pappi (not to forget shivan, sanjiv, and priya!) also sent a ***gorgeous*** teddy bear customized with her name and a tinkerbell "treasure box" that she carried around all morning long and pitched a major fit because i said she couldn't bring it to day care!
the day care will have birthday cake and a little celebration for her at lunchtime but her official birthday party is saturday at the bowling alley.
dandy the amazing!
ganesh - visiting for the week - took us to "dog days of winter", an event put on by a trainer down by lindsay (sharon worsley - http://www.paus-n-train.com ). saari was exhausted (click images for larger size):
we entered dandy into one event, though - the toy retrieval. technically, the dog is supposed to bring the toy back to the owner but since most of the dogs weren't trained to that level (difficult for them, being as there was easily a couple dozen dogs yowling, howling, and generally partying it up), it was only required they bring it back across the line. dandy had it figured out - the second i let him off his leash, he charged over, grabbed a toy, and brought it back but i thought he was supposed to give it to me so when he ran over to ganesh with his prize, i said "no, no, dandy, here!" instantly, i could see i'd confused him - he started running around with the toy like crazy, so i pretended to throw something and said "find it!" and sure enough, he dropped the one he had and went charging around to find the one i'd "thrown".
he ended up bringing back four - tied for first with three other dogs!
so we had a run-off. in 30 seconds, he brought back two, two other dogs brought three, and one brought one. the two tied for first had another run-off and he came in third overall - not bad, considering the winner was a service dog (professionally trained) and the second has also had professional training at that facility while the one came in fourth was trained also (just not there)!
ready? set...
go!
"i'm the man!"
we entered dandy into one event, though - the toy retrieval. technically, the dog is supposed to bring the toy back to the owner but since most of the dogs weren't trained to that level (difficult for them, being as there was easily a couple dozen dogs yowling, howling, and generally partying it up), it was only required they bring it back across the line. dandy had it figured out - the second i let him off his leash, he charged over, grabbed a toy, and brought it back but i thought he was supposed to give it to me so when he ran over to ganesh with his prize, i said "no, no, dandy, here!" instantly, i could see i'd confused him - he started running around with the toy like crazy, so i pretended to throw something and said "find it!" and sure enough, he dropped the one he had and went charging around to find the one i'd "thrown".
he ended up bringing back four - tied for first with three other dogs!
so we had a run-off. in 30 seconds, he brought back two, two other dogs brought three, and one brought one. the two tied for first had another run-off and he came in third overall - not bad, considering the winner was a service dog (professionally trained) and the second has also had professional training at that facility while the one came in fourth was trained also (just not there)!
ready? set...
go!
"i'm the man!"
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